"You don't marry a man, you marry a lifestyle."
Who you marry has the largest impact not just on your emotional life, but also on your lifestyle.
Both the large and small things in your daily life and long term plans will be impacted by your significant other's likes, dislikes, habits, schedule, health, personality, moods, job stresses, financial security, family, and situation.
Lucky for me, I married my best friend and someone who fits my lifestyle. Jay Wacker, who loves to travel, cook, watch Game of Thrones, take pictures and who can be silly and serious.
"You can make any choice you want if you are willing to accept the consequences that come with it."
When I was a little girl my mother told me that if you want to know whether a person is really nice, observe the way that person treats salesclerks, waiters, and other people in service professions who can't defend themselves. She was 100% correct, and I've never forgotten it.
It is very useful in sorting people out.
Right before I walked down the aisle to marry her son, my mother-in-law told me, "Michelle, if a man can't make himself a sandwich, he should starve."